Second chances are usually taken lightly.  You have a near miss, you are thankful for another day and a second chance.  However, within a few days, weeks, months, you are back to your old routine taking every day for granted as you did before.  So what do second chances really mean to you?

November 2014, a friend nearly lost his life to a blood clot and an initial misdiagnosis. Fortunately, he was finally properly diagnosed and is doing much better.  I feel that his second chance will be true and he will take all measures to make the changes needed to reach his goals.  I will do my best to be a part of that journey.

My friend, Gwen Bolden, was not as lucky.  She was killed on January 25, 2015 in a car crash that also took the life of her friend who was driving.  Gwen has been a part of my life off and on, more recently on, for the better part of 25 years.  She and I were, as they say, thick as thieves. I am so blessed that we had a chance to reconnect a few years ago and continued to stay in touch up until the end. Although our friendship was not the same as it was all those years ago, I am still torn by her death.  As I write this, I cannot help the tears I shed for the lost years, the amazing memories of the past and the amazing person she was.  I will miss her smile that greeted me every time we saw each other.  In recent years, when we were together she would tell anyone who was listening that we have been friends for over 20 years which is what she did the last time I saw her.

I have chosen to live my second chance vicariously in celebration of my friend who is on the mend and to honor my friend who I will never see again in this life.  It is also in honor of those who have been and are having a hard time. In honor of those who have passed on that I was not close to but were a part of my life at one time or another.  I don’t take this lightly as each day I will remember that the next minute, hour, day is not promised to us.  My second chance is now. I will not wait for my body to get sick or narrowly miss the reaper because of some accident at home, work or in the streets.  My second chance is now!  When is yours?